When terrible things happen, we search for answers and someone to blame. We want to know why this happened to us. Suppose we found an answer, would it matter? Would it change the suffering–the hole left in our hearts?
Sometimes there is no reason–its nobody’s fault. Sometimes bad stuff happens to us because it does. So, what can we do? We can find a way to turn tragedy into triumph. Allow this to shape your life. There are many things that can happen after the death of a loved one. If you allow it to shape you–if you use the skills you learn as you grieve–you will discover new passions and be amazed by your capabilities.
Instead of crawling into a hole, shout to the world that you are here. If we crawl in that hole, or if we are consumed with revenge, then our loved one remains a memory–their death remembered as a tragedy. If we honor our loved one with success and passion, then they live on through our actions–nonsense becomes a blessing. There is no better gift.