Mantra, War Cry…Same Thing

Most who know me, and many of you who read this blog, have noticed I find, create and live by different words, poems, or quotes. I don’t go around looking for words to live by. Instead, they seem to find me. They find me when I am unsure how to make the rain stop or the wind subside. They jump out of movies and books. Sometimes a friend’s story or blog makes me think in a way I never thought before. Those are words to live by.

I have my favorites. Typically, it is what ever got me through the most recent storm. There are storms so deeply personal or intense that no one else’s words seem to fit. In those moments, one has to look deep inside and muster some sort of reason or logic to survive. See, in times of trouble, I often do a lot of thinking and analyzing. I run through scenarios and possible answers to my problems. It’s in those times, I create my own mantra. It’s my war cry.

It’s the words that say, “You will get through this.” It’s the words that remind me this crisis will not last forever. There will be an after. Bad things don’t only happen to bad people. Good people see plenty of trouble, sometimes more than their share. And, often, when good people suffer, there is no logic or reason to the suffering. No way to explain it away or change the outcome. It’s those times that I know I couldn’t make it without my mantra, my war cry.

Until recently, I have always kept my mantras quiet, my war cry more of a whisper.  I protected myself because I was afraid. Afraid people would view me as stupid, simple, or naïve. I am not afraid anymore.

I realized long ago, I am average. If something has benefited me, chances are it will also benefit someone else.  No one gets through this world unscathed. No one can effectively navigate the rough seas alone. People need other people to survive. People need their own ideas to fill in the gaps where logic and reason fail to explain devastation. Everyone needs a mantra. When life leaves us feeling like wounded soldiers, we need a war cry.

Be listening for those unexpected words. Often, they are as much as one knows how to give. Allow them to seep into your heart. Let them be the mortar, holding the pieces together until you can heal. Find your mantra, your war cry.

About Sara

My name is Sara and I am a woman with a history and a future. I am a mother of 5 and a wife to an amazing man. Being a teen mother and a widow in my mid-twenties has given me plenty of storms to weather. Writing has always been my solace, it's also a passion and a talent. Through my writing I hope to help others weather their storms and create my own path to my dreams.
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4 Responses to Mantra, War Cry…Same Thing

  1. Jean says:

    It’s amazing how bits of songs or movie lines seems to jump out and inspire when we’re not really looking for what they have to offer. I love your writing and the way you think.

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  2. Sara, you continue to be such an inspiration, you write and distill things so well, and your ideas are so helpful. For the past week or two, I have been trying to come up with a word/mantra for the upcoming year – in the past, a word or phrase would just come to me – but not this year, and I think it’s due to “widow brain”. But I am starting to feel very lost, and a mantra is just what I need. So think I will focus on a short-term mantra. It doesn’t have to cover the year. If it happens to stick around longer, then great. Thanks for the reminder/post! – Katja.

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    • Sara says:

      Katja-
      Your words to me are always so wonderful. And, the fact you find anything I say the least bit interesting or helpful is even more wonderful.

      Hm. Widow Brain is a great term. So true. Hard to sort things out. There is a lot swirling around in there. Pulling one idea out seems to be nearly impossible.

      We have talked about this motto/mantra thing before. It will come to you. I love your attitude on finding one of your own. It’s perfect thinking. Find something that fits where you now and helps you meet a goal. Worry about the rest later. I would recommend reading, a lot. Listen to music. Lay in bed with no computer or tv and just think about how you can do this. What do you need to take the next step healing? Where is your focus? Would changing your focus help? And, of course, keep writing. It’s amazing what flows from brain to fingertips without conscious thought.

      If you feel good about it, let me know what you come up with. I’d love to hear.

      Sara

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