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Good Grief

We, as people, have this driving need to make everything okay. When things are okay (normal routine of life) we are comfortable. However, when something goes upside down and inside out, we feel it, and we struggle. We want to … Continue reading

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Day 53: 365 Days of Motivation for Widows

And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.   –Anais Nin American Author Not many would equate healing as a widow with beginning … Continue reading

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Day 52: 365 Days of Motivation for Widows

Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.  –Alfred A. Montapert Today will be hard. It will be hard if it happened yesterday. It will be almost just as bad if it was five years ago. It gets better, but holidays … Continue reading

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Redefine Your Life–Part 1

We are born into a life with definition, with an identity—we are sisters, daughters, Christians, and friends. As we grow, we develop our own definitions as well—we become students, animal lovers, and perhaps art enthusiasts. We get married and redefine … Continue reading

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Terrible Things

When terrible things happen, we search for answers and someone to blame. We want to know why this happened to us. Suppose we found an answer, would it matter? Would it change the suffering–the hole left in our hearts? Sometimes … Continue reading

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Day 38: 365 Days of Motivation for Widows

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” ― Oscar Wilde I see this all the time. I have felt this, more than once. I don’t think any of us want to just exist. I … Continue reading

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A Party of One.

Instantly–just like that–I was alone. In the beginning, there are people everywhere. There is rarely a moment when people aren’t swarming. They are hugging each other and the widow. They bring food. They help greet other guests. They try to … Continue reading

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You Have to Train Before Running a Marathon

There are many types of loss–some types of profound loss aren’t losses of loved ones. Divorce, loss of limbs, or even loss of a job can be emotionally devastating. Some experience a sudden loss of a loved one while others … Continue reading

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Day 36: 365 Days of Motivation for Widows

‘The future comes one day at a time.’    –Dean Acheson What a blessing and a curse. When everything comes up roses, we want to slow down and make it last forever. We want to soak it in—hold on to every scent, … Continue reading

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Day 35: 365 Days of Motivation for Widows

Turn your face to the sun, and the shadows fall behind you.—Maori Proverb I love this proverb! I love it because it reminds me, if I ever want even a glimmer of happiness, I have to be willing to face … Continue reading

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