About My Life

I am a 36-year-old woman with a history and a future. I am a loving wife and a mother of five. Small town raised in America’s Heartland.

It was in that small town I met my husband, Randy. He was my high school sweetheart. We got pregnant and then got married (yes, I know, not the right order).  When we bought our first home, we moved just outside the small town we grew up in.

In 2001, he was killed in a car accident by a drunk driver. My life really did change in an instant. For several months, almost a year, it felt like maybe it had ended my life too. We had three children, I couldn’t let that happen. I started learning how to live again.

In the years following Randy’s death, I met a man, Tim, who became my best friend. He helped me grieve, he helped me heal, and he helped me fall in love again. He even remembered my dreams and helped me enroll in school to further them. I married that man in 2004.  I had three kids, no job, and no college education. I had to do something and now. I did the only thing I knew.  With Tim’s help, I enrolled in school.

I had a clear goal from the start. A social worker helped me through the loss of my husband and I wanted to help people just like she helped us. I’m not sure where I would be without her. She also encouraged me in the pursuit of a social work degree. I graduated from college with a BA at 32 years old.  My major was social work and a minor in psychology. I was well on the way to reaching some of my dreams.

After graduation we decided it would be a good time to have another baby-or two. Now that our family is complete, I will be returning to further my Social Work education by completing a Master’s Degree after the kids are in school. My eventual goal is to become a LCSW, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I would love to work in hospice, gerontology, or with families in a private practice setting.

My life hasn’t always been smooth, but it has given me plenty experience. Experience that I feel I should share. I know I am not the only one to go through hard times. I also know there were many times I felt alone, completely alone. I wasn’t always brave enough to seek help and sometimes there just wasn’t help available.

I love writing and it has always been a way for me to cope, even when I didn’t seek help elsewhere. I know that I have a passion for writing and for helping others. I would love to combine those passions with my education and help those who are struggling right now.

Every journey has a beginning, and this is mine.

17 Responses to About My Life

  1. Hi Sara, I stopped over after noticing that you had visited my website. I wonder how many other widows went into the social work field? It took me many years, because I went to school while still raising my 2 daughters but I finally got my LMSW in 2010. Now I’m going to work on my LCSW. It’s a very gratifying job but can be very hard work!!

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  2. Kathy Peoples says:

    As you went through the loss of Randy it really hit me hard. It was so close to home. We had lockers near each other in High School and friends in the same circle. Randy and I had vocational school at the same time each day. We both went on to marry our High School sweethearts and have children young. Our kids went to the same schools and you lived only a few miles from us in the same community. In fact on the morning that Randy was killed my husband later followed that same road to work in which Randy was killed. I remember feeling very stricken when I heard what had happened and where. I thanked God that my husband had gotten to work safely and felt terrible for thinking that when you were going through the unimaginable. I still cringe if ever I have to drive by the accident area and say a little prayer for you. You have truly become a wonderful mommy, wife and friend. I think I have always wanted to say this to you but never wanted to bring up the subject. So thanks for giving me an outlet to let you know. I know that you will touch many lives! Good luck on your journey.

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    • Sara says:

      Aw. Kathy. What you said here is exactlly what most people that knew us thought. From the ones who answered the call to the ones on the scene to the ones who heard the news later. They all probably thought almost the exact same thoughts. They probably thanked the Lord their spouses were safe and cried for me, just like you. It was terrible and hard.

      We actually drive that road all of the time, sometimes it still affects us, but most of the time we push it aside. That is actually rather symbolic to the way you approach Randy’s death these days. We talk about him the person, but not usually that day. The day is forever painful. Now, we can think of him and remember all the good. We laugh and enjoy the memories.

      Thanks for opening up about your feelings. It’s awesome. And, thanks for quietly thinking about us and praying for us all these years. It means a lot.

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  3. ljlenehan says:

    Inspirational story!

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  4. Thank you for your blog! I can relate to some of what you were going through. I think we all reach a point in our lives, where we have to make some hard choices. Life is a learning process.We have to learn how to deal and move on, in a positive direction.No one is perfect and we all need a lil help and motivation along the way.

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    • sjb1994 says:

      All so very true! I don’t know what I would have done without support when I needed it most. All the negative stuff makes all the good stuff that much better!

      Thanks for the comment! Talk to you soon!
      Sara

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  5. I appreciate your blog and have nominated it for a Liebster Award. If you accept the “tag” you can find the details at http://tinylessonsblog.com/2012/11/18/awards-%e1%8a%a0%e1%88%98%e1%88%b0%e1%8c%8d%e1%8a%93%e1%88%88%e1%88%81

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  6. dswidow says:

    You are one strong, intelligent woman – and a fine writer, as well.

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  7. hippiechyk says:

    You are one of my dearest friends, and I am so proud of you, amazed by you and blessed by you. You have a true gift and you use it well! I know that this newest endeavor will help and inspire so many people. I love you much, my friend!

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  8. mich3l3d4vis says:

    Although I have never suffered a loss such as yours, I can relate to your story. Thank you for sharing and good luck with achieving your goals!

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    • sjb1994 says:

      I hope people can relate to it. I am glad you were able to. That is definitely the goal. I hope you enjoyed it. Stop by often and see what’s going on. Thanks for the comment!

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